super tenderoni. super sensitive. literally falling apart at the seams.
letting the feelings wash over me/run through me in the hopes of moving forward.
hoping to survive.
Wednesday, May 6, 2015
Monday, April 13, 2015
week of april 13
Virgo & Virgo Rising
You might meet a financial limit this week, a threshold that you cannot cross, a pinch in the old pocket. It’s important to respect your financial boundaries at the moment especially when it comes to joint projects and other people’s resources.
There might also be a philosophical boundary that you meet. A situation that demands your patience. There might be a professional boundary that you meet. Something that demands your maturity. There might also be a deepening of your understanding about who you are becoming in the world and who you are meant to be. Something much like publicly accepting responsibility.
Saturday’s new moon occurs in the part of your chart that has to do with what you get from others: money, joint projects and inheritances. If there is some project that you are wanting to start in collaboration with another, this is a new moon to initiate such an endeavor.
This part of our chart also acts as the compost heap of our lives. Letting go is hard to do but necessary if you want to create fertile soil for future growth. If you know that there is something you need to give up or even to loosen your tight grip from, then this new moon would be the time to pray your ass off for help in doing just that.
You might meet a financial limit this week, a threshold that you cannot cross, a pinch in the old pocket. It’s important to respect your financial boundaries at the moment especially when it comes to joint projects and other people’s resources.
There might also be a philosophical boundary that you meet. A situation that demands your patience. There might be a professional boundary that you meet. Something that demands your maturity. There might also be a deepening of your understanding about who you are becoming in the world and who you are meant to be. Something much like publicly accepting responsibility.
Saturday’s new moon occurs in the part of your chart that has to do with what you get from others: money, joint projects and inheritances. If there is some project that you are wanting to start in collaboration with another, this is a new moon to initiate such an endeavor.
This part of our chart also acts as the compost heap of our lives. Letting go is hard to do but necessary if you want to create fertile soil for future growth. If you know that there is something you need to give up or even to loosen your tight grip from, then this new moon would be the time to pray your ass off for help in doing just that.
Monday, January 26, 2015
2015
as the end of the year of the horse approaches, i am trying to prepare for the year of the goat and all that it may bring.
so many things have happened in the last year that feel like it is a launching off point for me. i am not sure what that all means though and i have an underlying fear that i am not ready to voice. so moving on to what i want this year to be.
so many things have happened in the last year that feel like it is a launching off point for me. i am not sure what that all means though and i have an underlying fear that i am not ready to voice. so moving on to what i want this year to be.
- i want to move into a place where i am making decisions based on what i want and not from fear of what others are thinking.
- i want to continue on my path of fitness
- i want to find healthy challenges
- i want to have a family
- i want to find a job that fulfills me and helps to create a healthy work/life balance
- i want to create more art
- i want to have a peaceful, harmonious house
- i want the strength to let go of things that no longer serve me
- i want all my relationships to strengthen and support my personal goals
- i want to travel domestically and internationally
we'll see how this all pans out......
Wednesday, June 18, 2014
flaws
by bastille
When all of your flaws and all of my flaws
Are laid out one by one
A wonderful part of the mess that we made
We pick ourselves undone
All of your flaws and all of my flaws
They lie there hand in hand
Ones we've inherited, ones that we learned
They pass from man to man
There's a hole in my soul
I can't fill it I can't fill it
There's a hole in my soul
Can you fill it? Can you fill it?
You have always worn your flaws upon your sleeve
And I have always buried them deep beneath the ground
Dig them up; let's finish what we've started
Dig them up, so nothing's left unturned
All of your flaws and all of my flaws,
When they have been exhumed
We'll see that we need them to be who we are
Without them we'd be doomed
There's a hole in my soul
I can't fill it I can't fill it
There's a hole in my soul
Can you fill it? Can you fill it?
You have always worn your flaws upon your sleeve
And I have always buried them deep beneath the ground
Dig them up; let's finish what we've started
Dig them up, so nothing's left unturned
Oooooh
Oooooh
When all of your flaws
And all of my flaws are counted
When all of your flaws
And all of my flaws are counted
You have always worn your flaws upon your sleeve
And I have always buried them deep beneath the ground
Dig them up. Let's finish what we've started
Dig them up. So nothing's left unturned
Oooooh
Oooooh
All of your flaws and all of my flaws
Are laid out one by one
Look at the wonderful mess that we made
We pick ourselves undone
Monday, June 16, 2014
growing into manhood
becoming an adult has been an intense process. going through a second puberty has been both liberating and confusing. i just want to focus on the 'positive' stuff (the things i like), but the other parts are much harder for me to grasp or focus on. those parts i just want to put into a dark closet and never open. bury it deep. but that will only lead to headaches later.
- who am i?
- what kind of man am i?
- how can i unlearn/heal from past relationships?
- how can i resolve my relationship with my father?
- will i have a relationship with my dad?
- what do i want?
- what kind of man do i want to be?
- how do i become friends with more men?
how do i even begin to address any of these questions? which one do i focus on first? should i focus on all of them?
being in this state of transition is taxing and exhausting. all i wanna do i sleep and sleep and sleep.
Thursday, February 6, 2014
clarity of vision
so in times when things are really difficult, i want to try to have a clear vision of what i want it to look like on the other side. today, i was fortunate enough to be able to put it together with sand and figures.
Saturday, November 9, 2013
personality test take 4
apparently every so often i need to re-take a personality test to see how/who i am.
and now i am back at being an ISFJ.
ISFJ personality
The ISFJ personality type is perhaps the most altruistic and supportive of all types. ISFJs rarely sit idle – there is always a worthy cause awaiting their attention. Most personalities are quite willing to reciprocate when it comes to good deeds; however, ISFJs take that to a higher level, often going above and beyond what is actually expected of them. People belonging to this type thrive in areas that are both traditional (they are SJs, after all) and involve a lot of activities where their input could make a huge positive difference. Many ISFJs seek careers in the academic sector, medicine, social work or counselling; their personality traits also shine in administrative or clerical roles, or even in somewhat unexpected fields such as interior design.
One of the hurdles that ISFJ personalities are likely to encounter in the professional environment is that it is quite difficult for an ISFJ to “advertise” their achievements. People with this personality type are prone to understating them, which leads to lack of recognition, missed promotions and various misunderstandings. ISFJs should not shy away from revealing how much they have done – not only this would prevent stressful situations, but the ISFJ would become more confident in their abilities and personality traits. It is not sufficient to simply know that you have done a great job – ISFJs also need to feel appreciated in order to remain enthusiastic. The fact that this personality type tends to be less visible than others does not help in such situations either.
ISFJs should also pay more attention to their workload and not hesitate to voice their concerns if it becomes unbearable. ISFJs tend to overload themselves with work, but their kindness is abused just as often as it is respected. As a cynic would say, everyone is secretly an egoist – and the ISFJ personality is the perfect target for those who do not hesitate to use other people for their own gain. ISFJs are extraordinarily loyal, committed and patient – they should make sure that these traits do not expose them to exploitation.
People with the ISFJ personality type often have very good memory and exceptional imagination. These traits can manifest themselves in a variety of ways. For instance, an ISFJ can easily notice discrepancies in someone’s story when the person repeats it again after a long period of time; ISFJs also find it very easy to choose the right gifts for persons they know well; finally, they may have no difficulties whatsoever making and maintaining personal and professional connections simply because they remember so many details about other people’s lives and habits – a very unusual trait for an introvert.
I would like to expand on the last point a bit – even though most ISFJ personalities rarely have any difficulties fitting in and making new friends in the professional environment, they are unlikely to use those connections to advance to managerial roles. ISFJs function best when they work in a close-knit team, when there is no tension between the management and the employees. Some ISFJs even go as far as seeing all their colleagues as semi-personal friends and behaving accordingly. For instance, if an old colleague moves to another department, the ISFJ will definitely consider following their example.
People with this type are known for their meticulousness, patience, reliability and analytical skills. This is quite an unusual combination given that this is a Feeling (F) type, but this is exactly what makes ISFJs so effective. They are unlikely to offer or embrace completely new and radical ideas, or lead a team towards some big goal, but their determination and passion more than make up for it. ISFJs tend to be very traditional and can be expected to defend existing norms and procedures – however, they are not blinded by this and are generally open to change, provided that the new approach does not contradict their inner values and principles.
Despite their effectiveness in the workplace, ISFJs will always put their family first. They will embrace the idea that family members are the most important people in their environment and act accordingly, paying a lot of attention to their needs and desires, surprising them with gifts and offering emotional or practical support when it is needed.
That being said, ISFJ personalities should be aware of their tendency to overdo things, especially in the family environment. As ISFJs always try hard to exceed others’ expectations (especially when they are not sure what those expectations might be), their attention can be somewhat overbearing. Many personality types, especially more independent ones, are likely to get annoyed by this after a while. Furthermore, some personalities are naturally less sensitive compared to ISFJs – their reaction to that care and attention may differ from what the ISFJ would expect. This should not be taken personally – every type is unique and what is pleasant for an ISFJ may not feel natural for someone else.
Some famous ISFJs:
St. Teresa of Avila
Queen Elizabeth II
Robert E. Lee
Queen Mary I (“Bloody Mary”)
Samwise Gamgee from the Lord of the Rings
Bianca from Taming of the Shrew
Ophelia from Hamlet
Dr Watson, the partner of Sherlock Holmes
and now i am back at being an ISFJ.
ISFJ personality
The ISFJ personality type is perhaps the most altruistic and supportive of all types. ISFJs rarely sit idle – there is always a worthy cause awaiting their attention. Most personalities are quite willing to reciprocate when it comes to good deeds; however, ISFJs take that to a higher level, often going above and beyond what is actually expected of them. People belonging to this type thrive in areas that are both traditional (they are SJs, after all) and involve a lot of activities where their input could make a huge positive difference. Many ISFJs seek careers in the academic sector, medicine, social work or counselling; their personality traits also shine in administrative or clerical roles, or even in somewhat unexpected fields such as interior design.
One of the hurdles that ISFJ personalities are likely to encounter in the professional environment is that it is quite difficult for an ISFJ to “advertise” their achievements. People with this personality type are prone to understating them, which leads to lack of recognition, missed promotions and various misunderstandings. ISFJs should not shy away from revealing how much they have done – not only this would prevent stressful situations, but the ISFJ would become more confident in their abilities and personality traits. It is not sufficient to simply know that you have done a great job – ISFJs also need to feel appreciated in order to remain enthusiastic. The fact that this personality type tends to be less visible than others does not help in such situations either.
ISFJs should also pay more attention to their workload and not hesitate to voice their concerns if it becomes unbearable. ISFJs tend to overload themselves with work, but their kindness is abused just as often as it is respected. As a cynic would say, everyone is secretly an egoist – and the ISFJ personality is the perfect target for those who do not hesitate to use other people for their own gain. ISFJs are extraordinarily loyal, committed and patient – they should make sure that these traits do not expose them to exploitation.
People with the ISFJ personality type often have very good memory and exceptional imagination. These traits can manifest themselves in a variety of ways. For instance, an ISFJ can easily notice discrepancies in someone’s story when the person repeats it again after a long period of time; ISFJs also find it very easy to choose the right gifts for persons they know well; finally, they may have no difficulties whatsoever making and maintaining personal and professional connections simply because they remember so many details about other people’s lives and habits – a very unusual trait for an introvert.
I would like to expand on the last point a bit – even though most ISFJ personalities rarely have any difficulties fitting in and making new friends in the professional environment, they are unlikely to use those connections to advance to managerial roles. ISFJs function best when they work in a close-knit team, when there is no tension between the management and the employees. Some ISFJs even go as far as seeing all their colleagues as semi-personal friends and behaving accordingly. For instance, if an old colleague moves to another department, the ISFJ will definitely consider following their example.
People with this type are known for their meticulousness, patience, reliability and analytical skills. This is quite an unusual combination given that this is a Feeling (F) type, but this is exactly what makes ISFJs so effective. They are unlikely to offer or embrace completely new and radical ideas, or lead a team towards some big goal, but their determination and passion more than make up for it. ISFJs tend to be very traditional and can be expected to defend existing norms and procedures – however, they are not blinded by this and are generally open to change, provided that the new approach does not contradict their inner values and principles.
Despite their effectiveness in the workplace, ISFJs will always put their family first. They will embrace the idea that family members are the most important people in their environment and act accordingly, paying a lot of attention to their needs and desires, surprising them with gifts and offering emotional or practical support when it is needed.
That being said, ISFJ personalities should be aware of their tendency to overdo things, especially in the family environment. As ISFJs always try hard to exceed others’ expectations (especially when they are not sure what those expectations might be), their attention can be somewhat overbearing. Many personality types, especially more independent ones, are likely to get annoyed by this after a while. Furthermore, some personalities are naturally less sensitive compared to ISFJs – their reaction to that care and attention may differ from what the ISFJ would expect. This should not be taken personally – every type is unique and what is pleasant for an ISFJ may not feel natural for someone else.
Some famous ISFJs:
St. Teresa of Avila
Queen Elizabeth II
Robert E. Lee
Queen Mary I (“Bloody Mary”)
Samwise Gamgee from the Lord of the Rings
Bianca from Taming of the Shrew
Ophelia from Hamlet
Dr Watson, the partner of Sherlock Holmes
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