monogamy and polyamory

in thinking about relationships i am coming back to the notions of monogamy and polyamory. i've been thinking about love a lot these days and what it is. unconditional love is something i have been reading about. and it seems to me that both monogamy and polyamory put some sort of 'conditions' on love. monogamy puts the condition of not sleeping with other folks on the table and polyamory puts the condition of having multiple partners on the table. it is two sides of the same coin. i feel like i can love unconditionally. i recognize that i have a lot of work to get to that point, but i am definitely on the path. i think that when it comes down to relationships with lovers, i do lean towards monogamy but have had some experience with polyamory. i think that for polyamory to work, all parties involved need to be open and honest with their own needs and wants. but at the same time, in any relationship, everyone needs to be open and honest with their needs and wants. this is all done with clear communication, being able to ask for what you want, but also be willing to hear 'no' and being ok with that. being open to asking questions, but also answering questions in a clear and honest manner. all relationships take a lot of work and everyone involved needs to be committed to doing the work and struggling through the hard parts and being patient with the process. things come together and things fall apart and that is how life is. loving yourself is the foundation for everything to work out. it's hard though because feelings can complicate the process. in all my work dealing with emotions, i am seeing that they are not easy to 'explain'. recognizing your feelings during the process is a huge starting point, but i'm wondering what you 'do' after you recognize them. just seeing them as feelings and letting them go is really hard. philosophically, i feel like i can talk about and 'rationalize' or use 'logic' to talk about the concepts of monogamy and polyamory, but then feelings get involved and it throws me for a loop. i don't really know the purpose of this post other than to say that all relationships are complicated and i have no idea what i'm doing. i'm working on just being ok with not knowing anything and just trying to become the process. everyone's situation is unique and everyone has a unique experience. everything is always changing. it is what it is. so it goes....i love.